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Learning To Lean Was Not A Goal

3 Mar

The idea of learning to lean on another person does not seem to be a goal worth achieving. As a believer, and a woman I have been taught that it is important to be strong, sufficient, and capable. From an early age I learned the benefit of depending on myself and not others then life […]

Don’t Stare At Me…

18 Feb

I don’t know how many times I walked into a room as a young(er) single mother and felt everyone was staring at me and all of my sin was on display. My inability to ‘keep’ a husband was a reproach I had to bear. I wanted to scream “QUIT STARING…IT’S NOT MY FAULT” But I […]

Speaking Life Over our Children

18 Sep

As a 21 year-old mom I had no grid for speaking ‘life’ over my children. I was trying to make it through life. My marriage was rocky (great and not so great times) I had no support system as a young mother and no relationship with the Lord. Growing up in a shame-based home where […]

Where Are The Godly Mentors for My Children?

4 Sep

“Where are the men in the church? Where are the godly mentors?”  After all Malachi 4:6 tells us that God WILL restore the hearts of the fathers to the children and the children to the father, but why are we not seeing this happen? Over and over in books, on radio and TV, even through […]

Deliverance from the Reproach of Divorce

13 Aug

I have worn this reproach of divorce. Like a dark cloak around me, weighing me down as I have walked about, my head hung in shame.  Even when the divorce is a result of adultery, many single mothers bear the shame and reproach of divorce.  We look for ways to build ourselves up: maybe another […]

The Perfect Bowl Of Oatmeal Is Like The Life Of A Single MOM

1 Aug

There are few things as satisfying as making the perfect bowl of steaming oatmeal, topped with cream, a pat of butter, nuts, a sprinkle of cinnamon and real maple syrup for sweetness. I loved giving my children this wholesome comfort food before they started their days. I had a sense of accomplishment of a ‘job […]

The Waiting Womb

19 Jul

I was surprised this morning in my prayer time to hear God’s admonishment to find contentment in this season of ‘The Waiting Womb”. It seemed a bit odd, but I knew it was God because I don’t think of phrases like that on my own. I have been in a season of internal chaos. I believe […]

The Hindrance of Shame

18 Jun

Shame is the gremlin who says “you will never be good enough” ~Dr. Brene’ Brown I have realized that shame is one of the greatest hindrances to being all that God created me to be. As a young child I was ashamed of our poverty, of being from a single mother family, of having a […]

Perfection is spelled: GRANDChildren

13 Jun

  “She is ‘perfectly proportional’”, her dad exclaims, in awe of the little one that has been growing in her mother’s womb for 9 months. Yes indeed, perfection has arrived and she is called:  GRAND-DAUGHTER For months we have been tossing around names of what I will be called. What will my title of honor […]

The Challenge of Guarding the Hearts of Our Children

14 May

  As single moms, how can we juggle guarding the hearts of our children while also providing for their physical needs? I don’t have the answer, but I have the problem. It seems to confront me frequently. After years of working to provide a safe, loving home environment for my children, I know they are […]